Just A Walking Target’s blog

While I realize that each person's parenting style is different - and in some cases non-existant - it still disturbs me that my eldest seems to have gotten himself involved with someone who views him spending time with his only child as "vile" and something that has "stomach emptying consequences".

I knew she viewed her interactions with her OWN child as a duty rather than a joy and saw nothing wrong with letting a 5 year old child run around a house unsupervised while the so-called parental figure sleeps off the previous night's drinking binge.  Now she has no problems with spewing her distaste for any other parent spending time with their child as "vile"???

I can only hope that my eldest will see what is going on and wake up eventually.  To that female, he should have no one in his life but her - not his child, his mother, his sibling, his parents.  Not even his friends, unless they are ones SHE introduced him to.  That's ok, but not anyone he knew before HER.

Controlling much??  Paranoid much??

Seems the one child's psycho girlfriend posted an ad to be a babysitter just a few months ago.  In the ad, she claims to be warm, loving, caring, fun, yada yada yada.  Willing to clean house, do the shopping, carpooling, etc.

Wait a minute, this is coming from the same female that saw nothing wrong with letting 4 and 5 year olds wander around the house for HOURS unsupervised as she had been up too late the night before getting PLASTERED?????  This is coming from the same female that sees nothing wrong with getting into a bloody fist fight with her boyfriend IN FRONT OF the children????

This one smokes in front of the kids, drinks in front of the kids, cusses in front of the kids - will NOT get up with the children to even keep an eye on small ones much less fix them food.

And she's trying to pass herself off as an excellent babysitter and wants $10-$20 PER HOUR to watch YOURS?????

Oh, my freakin gods and goddesses - by all that's holy or UNholy.  I've seen it all now.

Not that I expect anyone to take it seriously - at least until they find themselves tossed off my property and their phone calls not returned.

I've had enough with people thinking they can lie and I won't find out.  I have enough with people thinking they can do whatever they want and I'll just go along with it.

I'm too old and tired for this shit.

It isn't like I don't have enough friends or things to occupy my time.  Thankfully, the few that seem to think the rules don't apply to them are few and far between.

What amazes me is the ones that have been around for a while and suddenly think they are exempt from the rules.  Nope, but they'll find out quickly enough that they can't get away with pulling the same crap they've complained about in others.

Sick of it.  Sick of liars and deceivers, cheats and sneaks.

Even if I end up with no one around but me, it would be worth it only because I wouldn't have to wonder whether I'm being lied to again.

I have one child who can't seem to figure out that he really shouldn't do things to harm others, especially those members of his family who have stood by him all of his life.

Regrettably, in the space of months, he's cost his own sibling more than one residence and now has refused the responsibility for his own debts - those of him and his girlfriend - and it's resulting in his sibling being hauled into court over it.

No, the sibling shouldn't have placed themselves in the position where they could be harmed, but they tried to help and got massively screwed over for it.

And there's nothing I can do about it except fume.  I can't help to pay the debt mainly because it wouldn't teach the offending child anything and would only damage my own finances.

Why do I keep referring to this offspring as a child??  No, he's definitely NOT a child chronologically, but he's acting in more of a childish manner than I've ever seen.  He seems swayed by his current girlfriend's input and opinion to the point where he's costing his sibling a LARGE amount of money and damage and everyone else is left to clean up his mess.  He throws a temper tantrum any time he gets called on the bullshit and seems to think this same female companion would never lie to him.  There are those of us that do know she's lied to him and have proven it and he continues to ignore it.  Sad, really.

I'm sad over the loss of a child and more damage done to another one that I can't fix.  I hate to see where this child's behavior is going to lead.  He's already lost so much - how much more will have give up to keep his girlfriend happy??  He's already lost his only child due to his behavior and now the majority of his birth family.  He doesn't see where this is leading though.

I don't want to have to bury him but I fear that's where I'll see him end up.

I'm not sure what to put in here just yet.  I'm still allowing certain thoughts to percolate through what is commonly referred to as a brain, although some seem to doubt its existence within this skull.

I'm not sure what I've done to earn the wrath of those who claimed to care, but it's becoming extremely burdensome.  No, I'm not going suicidal, lol.  Just contemplating methods, whys and wherefores of removing such persons from my life.  The only thing that begins to slow me down is the fact that some of these have been around for many many years and to remove them would be more damaging than I can begin to calculate at the moment.

Ah, well.